Feedback Friday (Late post)

Hi ladies,

So you all know I did a wash day last weekend right? The process was the same as my last one but this time I made my own detangling spritz with aloe vera juice and olive oil 🙂 I liked it… maybe because I am a fan of aloe vera juice but in terms of the results I felt like my hair was very soft after detangling it. Everything else was the same but for those who didn’t get  a chance to read the last washday post here’s a summary of my routine.

Detangle- on moist hair with a paddle brush and wide tooth comb. I use detangler or a homemade spritz …

Prepoo- (2hrs)I used them same tea tree, olive oil and strongs roots pimento oil mix. I the oil on my scalp so that the tea tree oil can disinfect my scalp and then strong roots pimento oil penetrates the scalp to strengthen my roots

Wash- in four sections but not in braids. My hair and scalp was a lot more dirty so I used shampoo this time instead of co-washing to prevent build up of dirty on my scalp. I gave my scalp a good scrub and may have contributed to a few tangles but I was willibg to comb them out gently for a clean scalp 🙂

Protein treatment- I skipped the protein treatment again this time and when right in to deep conditioning. I will use my protein treatment on my next wash day. Every two months is fine for my hair especially with all this growth. the matting is not my friend. 

Deep conditioning- I remain OBSESSED  with my JBCO deep conditioner. I think it may be the castor oil component but it leaves my hair feeling amazing and soft… it’s sensational!!! and I don’t even have to apply too much …This time I even deep conditioned with out heat. I just cover with my shower cap and left it in for about an hour and a half, but the results as always were amazing. oh and all this was in sections.

Blow dry- I moisturized my hair then applied argan oil as my heat protector and blow dried in sections using the tension method.

With the more growth I’m getting the more shrinkage I’m experiencing but I know it’s all worth it !! Have any of you done washday recently ? Please share YOUR Wash day regimen with all of us 🙂  

 

  

Results from my wash day- pre  wash and detangle, during blow drying, final results and after.

Results from my wash day- pre wash and detangle, during blow drying, final results and after.

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My go to protective and growing style-WIGS

Those that know me well would be shocked to hear me say I wear wigs and I wear wigs OFTEN …. Prior to my hair journey and also at the beginning of it, I always used to wear braids and weaves as my go to protective styles. However, after coming across various bloggers who use wigs to grow out their hair I decided to give it a shot. I have not looked back since! Now I’m in love with using wigs as my protective and growing style, here’s why:

Flexibility:

Because I blog about hair care and growth the demand to “see my hair” is quite high… I tend to disappoint people quite a lot because my hair is always braided up. However with wig regimens I have the ability to wear my hair out every 3weeks when I have wash days. I usually keep my hair out for3-5days so I can please my followers and at the same time maintain low manipulation during stretches. There is also flexibility in hairstyles. I can be long haired one minute then short and curly the next. So it’s great for my ladies who get tired of the same hairstyle after 4 weeks of having it.

Accessibility:

Wigs are the best of both worlds. I can have nice protection with my hair covered during the day and yet I can pay attention to the health of my hair 100% during my regimen because I have full access to it at whenever I need it. The one thing I did not enjoy about WEAVES is that as much as I can oil and moisturize and seal my hair, I always feel like it’s not effective enough. There are too many “hard to reach areas” that I can’t get to give to and I can never work on my ends and give them TLC. However with my wig regimen I can put my hair in box braids then moisturize and seal the length of my hair. I can also keep my scalp clean and even dry condition on those braids whenever I want.

Scalp Focus

When I am using wigs I can really focus on my scalp care and cleanliness. I put the box braids in securely with the tension that my scalp likes. There is never hair that will fall out because I pulled it too tight so this way I can always protect my hairline and nape from breakage. I can do deep massages on my scalp after oiling it and then do the greenhouse method over night which my hair loves!! I also tend to have a very sensitive scalp so I need to apply aloe vera and vitamin E to my scalp often. The box braids in my wig regimen give me full access to my scalp and any problem areas so I can treat them in time and clean my scalp often. 

3 tips when I use my wigs:

I never hook the band …. too much tension around my head and hairline. The friction will cause breakage and also just give me a headache

I use lace front wigs and secure the small combs as far back from my hairline as possible

I massage my hairline with coconut oil daily before I put on my wig to reduce breakage and itching along my hairline

tellingMYhairstory: RELAXER BURN!!!

it’s a new year and everyone wants a new hair style or something, so I’ve been getting lots of questions on relaxers. When to get them, what products to use, how to process them etc.This brought back a memory of one of my worst hair experiences and I figured it was only right to share my hairstory with you all.

Sooooo two years ago I had a VERY VERY  bad experience with relaxing. My hairdresser was away so foolishly I allowed a very inexperienced person to relax my hair. At the time I was just trusting and assumed that standards were the same amongst the hairdressers, and that the ‘lady’ knew what she was doing. Boy was I wrong!!!I have always been quite assertive when it comes to my hair because I have such a tender scalp, and that was truly my saving grace that day! This lady burned my scalp so badly to the point that my scalp is STILL recovering. I am not exaggerating when I say I’m thankful to still have my hair…Ok, I think I’ve done enough of a build up now let me get into the details.

I went in for a relaxer and like I mentioned my hairdresser wasn’t there so this other ‘lady’ proceeded to do my hair. Things were fine at first. She based my scalp and parted my hair etc. during this time I made sure to tell her that my scalp is very tender and that I would needed her to work fast with the relaxer. Which she did not. It seemed like she had never applied relaxer before and I was starting to feel really uneasy. Plus she was chatting my ear off the whole time trying to talk hair with me and I felt like she was trying to cover up for her lack of experience. Anyway  so now my scalp is on fire and I let her know so she agrees to go rinse it out. So she rinses out the relaxer and after years of having my hair done I know she hasn’t done it thoroughly enough. Next thing she applies what should have been neutralizing shampoo but clearly wasn’t because she went on to put a heat cap over my head and tell me to sit under the steamer!!!??!! I was like, “excuse me? are you not going to put in the neutralizing shampoo, my scalp is still burning.” Then she goes “oh don’t worry ‘sweetie’ this stuff does both.” So I’m like ok, maybe this is a new product on the market and the hairdresser knows best right? NO. NO, NO, NO.  my scalp was on fire and I couldn’t shake the feeling that this wasn’t right so I got up and told her to rinse my hair out. Every touch of her hand was torture and at this point I’m freaking out inside. I just pictured a sink full of my hair falling out in batches. I knew I was burned and worse than I’ve ever been but I had no idea just how bad it was!  She blow dried and straightened my hair, another huge mistake and got right out of there!!! I was livid!!!

Now here’s where it gets worse, I wrap my hair that night and put on my head scarf as I should, pop a few pain killers and get to bed. I had to fall asleep with my face in my pillow because I couldn’t press my scalp, particularly the bottom half on my pillow because of the pain. Fast forward to the next morning and the horror was revealed. You’ve all seen a used/stained bandage right? That’s what my scarf looked like. My hair and the scarf were literally glued to the bottom half of my scalp. I had to peel the scarf off my hair and then when I touched my hair it felt like I had put in gel and it had partly hardened overnight. My scalp was oozing this sticky clear and reddish substance that I figured was a mix of puss and blood and my whole head was aching. I was absolutely mortified. Immediate tears because I got overwhelmed by a wave of pain and fear and I just couldn’t handle it. I love my hair and I was just picturing all of my hair falling out like the pics you find on the internet. I wish I still had photos to show you all but unfortunately my camera got stolen, but it was bad. Very very bad!

I went back to the salon that same day and explained to the manager what happened and she took a look at my hair. Somehow I kept my cool. I think it was because I was so scared and just needed help, but I was furious. Any way she took a look and apologised profusely, then did some treatment on my hair. I had to let my hair air dry and could not brush it until my scalp dried out, which took a number of days with my hair plastered to my scalp again. The burning sensation was gone, I guess the manager finally used a neutralizing shampoo on my scalp but it still hurt. A friend of mine suggested that I put vitamin E oil on the burns while I try to treat my scalp and I did so religiously. It saved my hair and scalp.

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Since that time I’ve struggled with my scalp a lot. The bottom half is very sensitive and I would get a lot of sores on my scalp, especially when I braided my hair. I made the mistake of relaxing after about 9months post burn which was dumb!! I really should have left my scalp to heal but I didn’t know any better. Now that I’ve been doing more research on damaged scalps I’ve been using a mixture of aloe vera and vitamin e and it has worked wonders! I also decided to texlax and refrain from relaxing when I feel that my scalp isn’t healthy enough. For example I was due for my first texlax in Feb this year but I only did it in March because I was still developing sores after I took out my braids, so I went back to my aloe and vit e mix. Now I use my herbal Aloe vera JBCO! God’s gift to my scalp…. It increases thickness, promotes hair growth AND soothes and repairs my damaged scalp. I say damaged scalp because deep relaxer burns can take years to recover from.

A healthy scalp is EVERYTHING ladies. Please never sacrifice your scalp for a relaxer, hairstyle or anything! If your scalp is damaged take the TIME to let it heal…THERE IS NO HEALTHY HAIR WITHOUT A HEALTHY SCALP and there’s no way around this fact. Give your scalp what it needs, clean it, feed it, massage it etc and it will grow you a bit of hair in return trust me! lol

Decision Time: long term STRETCH or long term TRANSITION????? (Part1)

OOOHHHH GOSH here I am on the fence again…. I really don’t know what my problem is? Lol … I never make a solid hair decision…  Now for those of you who are wondering what I am going about I’ll have you know that I have the biggest case of indecision when it comes to my hair… I’ve been texlaxing for almost a year now and I’m surprised I have even made it this far without changing my mind! Lol but I guess I cannot say that anymore because here I am!! Lol

Ok so my problem is that I am a lover of NATURAL HAIR. Everything about it! How it looks and feels etc  And I transitioned to natural over  a two year period from 2008-2010 HOWEVER … I have a super sensitive scalp so detangling and wash days when I was natural were the worst because of the pain. I sound like a baby but I’m really not, my scalp gets super sore! Any way you all know my hairstory, I texlax and even with texlaxed hair I struggle but here I am once more missing the feeling of my coily, kinky curls and I am yearning to be natural again!!! Especially now that I am so much more informed. (ps anyone who is natural or transitioning can testify that those little curls are addictive, your hands STAAAYYY in your hair.)

With all that said I’ve decided to embark on a long term stretch that could possibly turn into a long term transition, depending on how things go…You might now be wondering what the difference is since the hair experiences are pretty much the same….Well really, they are basically the same thing, just that:

  •  Stretching – is extending the period of time between relaxers. it’s done with the intention of relaxing at some point. stretches can be as short as 10weeks to as long as 52weeks!!
  • Transitioning– is cutting out the use of relaxer over an extended period of time with the intention of NOTrelaxing…EVER… and gradually cutting off processed hair to become fully natural.

Now don’t think for a second that this is easy.. I have been here before and let me tell you it’s no joke!! But it CAN AND WILL be done and in the healthiest way possible.. Below are just 2 of many things you can expect if you are doing either or. I will follow up with other posts because I wouldn’t want to bore you with a super long post right now. it’s Friday :-p

1) Breakage

Do you remember reading my post on the mark of demarcation? If not please do so because when you transition/ stretch there is nothing more live than breakage and that’s where all the action happens!! As a recap to what is –The texture difference between our relaxed hair and natural hair is so great and so the point at which the two meet (demarcation mark) is very weak and prone to breakage. So you will need to be very careful when managing your hair and limit the use of heat and excessive combing during these times. YOU WILL EXPERIENCE BREAKAGE so just get ready for it…. I’m already psyching myself out to not hit the freak out button. The aim though is to not let things get out of control. Stick with the same regimens and keep your hair as healthy as possible during transitions – but that’s a post for another day.
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That’s a pic from my post of the demarcation point. So get reading. Difference in texture is very clear

 2) Multiple Textures

I’m lucky I get to manage 3 different textures during my stretch… Oh what fun (sigh) Not only do I have to worry about the health of my natural growth and fully processed hair. I also have to manage the texture and extra demarcation line with the texlaxed hair…Stress I tell you!! And every texture will be on the extremes. Extremely tough and kinky, or extremely straight and thin. So combing and styling is not easy. You may want to steer clear for a while and throw in a protective style.   Remember different types of hair have different needs so you need to be very mindful of that. You will find that wash days are the enemy when you are stretching… the thin relaxed hair all of a sudden looks  and feels so unhealthy and flimsy and it knots up every chance it get. Say hello to single strand knots and hour long detangling. A lot on caution and patience is needed on washdays as you can really damage your hair if you are not careful.

 

Don’t let all this stuff scare you I will post on tips for managing transitioning/stretch and how we can keep our hair healthy and reduce damage! All is not lost!!! Healthy hair is the number one priority…. Until next time

~XoXoXo~
K.

Feedback Friday: Summer Heat and Moisture

Hi everyone,

As usual it’s another Feedback Friday… Not sure what the weather is like where you all are but here in Zim it’s sweltering!!! What are you doing to keep your hair hydrated and moist in this heat???

Remember our hair needs all the moisture it can get to improve elasticity. The weather here is not helping that cause at all!  Dry hair has low elasticity = BREAKAGE and we don’t want that at all. Focus on retaining your length so that your hair growth is measurable.  Don’t have equal but opposite forces at place on your heads i.e growth and breakage at the same time. We all know from our physics lessons what the result of that is! lol

REMEMBER >>>MOISTURE MOISTURE MOISTURE<<<<<<<

  Aside from moisturising and sealing is anyone else doing something different? If so PLEASE SHARE. The more ideas the better….

Hair Teams (Part 2) : Relaxed Hair

What is Relaxing???

Relaxing is the use of chemicals to permanently change the curl pattern of our natural hair in order to obtain straight hair.  If you read my post on hair structure you will remember that our hair is made up a hard protein called keratin. When the chemicals are applied to our hair the chemical bonds in the protein structure are broken giving our hair it’s new straight texture. This chemical change also weakens our hair at the same time and can make it thin and limp if the chemical is left on for too long and the hair is over processed.

What do I use ….

The relaxer I use on MY hair is Mizani Butter Blend Sensitive Scalp Rhelaxer (No lye).  I started using it because my scalp is VERY tender and sensitive to relaxers. I always burn very fast, so when my friend mentioned it to me, I read some reviews and gave it go. It’s worked very well for me and I don’t see myself changing any time soon.

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The choice is yours when it comes to what product you use, but make sure that you are taking note of the results as you go along. Also be consistent with your relaxers. Do not “relaxer hop” from one product to the next. This is not good for your hair…

Types of Relaxers (most common)

  • Lye Relaxer- These are the strongest and give the most dramatic effect on our hair as they contain sodium hydroxide. People with very coarse hair that seems resistant to processing would lean more towards these.
  • No Lye Relaxer – These are considered healthier for our hair because they have a lower alkalinity and are less harsh on the hair. They contain guanidine hydroxide.

 

Understanding the relaxer process

Now when it comes to understanding relaxers I like to give the example that’s applies to every Zim woman. The case of “kuibvisa bvudzi.” Something that many hairdressers hammered into our heads since we were young. Lol. Gone are the days!!

  • Bvudzi ra ibva – Hair is fully processed. More protein bonds are broken during the relaxer process making hair very straight and also very weak.
  • Bvudzi risina kuibva –  Hair is under processed. Less protein bonds broken and so hair retains part of its curl pattern. The curls become looser as opposed to bone straight. Hair will be weakened but not as much as completely processed hair.

There are two main things that contribute to the above that we must all be aware of; Processing time and Hair texture.

Processing Time:

When relaxing hair the chemical is only left on the HAIR for a specific period of time to allow chemical reactions to take place. Time is limited so as to NOT damage the hair through over processing. Also time is limited because the chemicals inevitably come in contact with our scalps and when left on for too long will cause temporary or long term damage to the scalp. Processing time will vary from one head to another for different reasons. Some people have scalps that are more sensitive to these chemicals and so contact must be avoided or limited in time. Then there is the issue of hair texture which causes the greatest variance in results.

Hair Texture:

You can relax two people with the same type of relaxer for the same duration of time and find that their hair could be processed completely different. This is because some people may have very thick coarse individual strands while others have finer more soft strands. The thicker strands will require stronger Lye relaxers and possibly more processing time as opposed to those with finer hair who would need the weaker No lye relaxers and less processing time.

Another thing about hair texture is that it varies on individual heads. For example my hairline and nape are a lot softer and finer than the hair in the middle of my head. Therefore, I will apply relaxer to these areas last to avoid over processing, while giving the hair in the middle more time to take to the relaxer.

Does this all make sense? I hope so… it’s important for us to know what we are doing to our hair and the impacts, both positive and negative. It’s YOUR hair so take ownership and responsibility over it!! Ok pep talk over, and onto the more fun stuff.

Why Relax ???

  • Straight hair is much easier to comb/detangle both dry and wet
  • Relaxed hair looks great and you get to feel the wind blowing on your scalp J
  • You use less heat on your hair when styling and you have more styling options
  • You have more versatility with hair styles

Negative side of relaxers!!

  • You are using CHEMICALS…. Enough said.
  • Our hair structure becomes much weaker because of breaking of chemical bonds in our hair.
  • Processed hair needs a lot of care/maintenance to keep it healthy and products can become expensive.
  • Hair looks good but the chemicals make the hair more dry/brittle and so it is more prone to breakage if we don’t deep condition and use protein treatments regularly. This makes length retention difficult.
  • Relaxers must be done on a regular basis to maintain similar texture of the hair. Managing multiple textures may cause breakage.
  • Because the hair is so straight it can look flat and rather lifeless especially when over processed
  • Chances of scalp burns/damage are high.

It may seem that there are more negatives than positives but relaxed hair can still be healthy and long. No matter how you keep your hair it will require commitment and effort to manage it so don’t fear!

Do you relax you hair? If so please share feedback on what product you use, why you chose to relax and any pros and cons 🙂 Also if you DON’T  relax your hair tell us why. Some people are on the fence about whether to relax or not and your input could make the difference.

~XoXoXo~

K.

tHs Hair Consultations

Ladies,

As I am sure you have seen, when it comes to our hair there is SO much more involved than we EVER expected.  The sheer volume of information out there can really be overwhelming and you may end up with more questions than answers. Also you could have hair challenges that need discussion as reading alone may not help.
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If that’s the case and you are anything like me a ONE-ON-ONE session where you can ask all the questions you have, and discuss YOUR HAIRSTORY and challenges at length will be really helpful to get you going. This is why I’m so excited to offer that opportunity to you all.

Hair consultations will involve a number of different things from hair assessments, regimen building, styling advice, product selections and more. They will be done on an individual basis as everyone’s hair and hair needs are different and we will work together to find the best regimens and products for YOU and YOUR hair. They really do make a world of difference to your hair care journey so let’s give it a go.

Email me on kundayimawema@gmail.com to schedule a hair consultation before/after working hours on weekdays and between 7- 10.00 am on weekends. Further contact details and pricing information will be given upon request. Looking forward to seeing you all soon and helping you start your Healthy Hair Journey!

 

~XoXoXo~

K.